Updated: Best 2 Years of my Life

Two years ago, I married my best friend.
We pushed each other to our respective goals until we realized we would love to live this life together.
The Word says in Proverbs 18:22
“He who finds a wife finds what is good <sup class="crossreference" value="(W)”>
    and receives favor from the Lord.”
We have been living in that favor for two years. God truly has blessed us beyond measure and each year when he does for one of us, he certainly does for the other.
When I got a new job, my husband got a new job.
When I got a new car, my husband got a new car.
When we decided to buy a house, we were able to buy a house together..
This man is the love of my life and each day I continue to love living this life out with him.
Happy Anniversary Babe.. Love you LOTS!
And being the man of few words…
This was his response to me saying it yet again on his way to work this morning.
He’s so funny..
Sometimes: I tell the receptionist to tell unscheduled people that I am not here.
Always: There may be a few that are exceptions due to emergencies, but everyone has a scheduled time to see me.
Sometimes: the job has few perks..
Always: I enjoy them when they are in my favor! Like me finally getting my own office on Friday!
Sometimes: So much drama happens in my world of law enforcement.
Always: I listen to Gospel Music on the way home from work to clear my head.
Sometimes: My BFF goes through some tough times that are unexpected.
Always: I am up to putting a smile on her face!

And now, Welcome all of the followers from the “Blog Star” Link Up… if this is your first time here, press the Home button and get familiar! Post a comment, follow and stay awhile.. a little about me…
1. I love blogging and sharing random thoughts that I may have throughout the day.
2. I will probably have a different look in each of my self-photos because I change my hair and make up on the regular. LOL I call it my creative outlet.
3. I am married to a sexy professional Musician!
4. We go to the movies weekly!
5. I love posting random funnies as I see them, as well as other bits and pieces.

Mrs. Monologues
Updated: Recap of our Anniversary Night
Sometimes, I wish I could take those “What I Wore” Photos and other times I don’t think What I wore was all that great.. I mean in the sense of keeping it real – today I wore a tee shirt, cardigan, too big khaki pants and my Nike Running shoes to work… who wants to see that?! and other times I am ALL into what I wore and make sure that I am fly for my own good.
Honestly, I would love to but that whole iphone in the photo thing is not hot! But this is all I have from yesterday : Sweater/ NY&Co Jeans/ Target Tee/ Target Shoes/ Steve Madden Necklace/ Boutique.
I guess… in the future because a new camera with tripod is on my wish list, perhaps I can show you how we step out from time to time.. I don’t know. You would think as a Fashion Merchandising Minor in college, I would be all over this topic.
I guess I lack that early 20’s confidence where I would walk into Bebe in my size 8 days and buy whatever I wanted because I could fit it all. I swear I have the most Bebe points to this day that when the rude sales people don’t help me because they think I am “just looking” because I am too big… when I ring up my accessories and they see those points they drop their jaw and try to sell me more stuff. But I digress.. because I definitely just went on a tangent… LOL.
Ok, so Hubby took me to Ruth Chris Steak House in Crystal City, VA for our Anniversary and it was AMAZING!

This was the Porterhouse Steak for Two.


Monday’s Musings: Movies, Mothers and More

This weekend was a great weekend. It was nothing too out of the ordinary, but I got to spend quality time with my husband and my sister since my mother could not be in the DMV (DC, MD, VA Area- always referred to as the DMV here) to see us. She was in GA. 
Adventures with hubby began with a little light shopping and window shopping at our favorite mall. Then of course, we HAVE to go to the movies (Its just our thing) and we ended up seeing The Avengers yet again, but this time IMAX 3D. Usually the 2nd week the lines aren’t that long.. but with The Avengers, it was just like it came out yesterday. 
YES! This is the line… wrapped around and then some!

Is it just me or do you also HAVE to have Movie Theater Popcorn when you go to the movies… for me, I get so anxious, even if I have already seen the movie that I have to eat something or I will be one of those people you hate in the movie thats screaming out “Watch OUT!” 
On Mother’s Day, my sister and I hung out together at a Mother’s Day Brunch sponsored by DivasMPH
Meet Joi-Marie.. my little sister

Here she is giving remarks at the Heart Healthy Mother’s Day Brunch sharing how Heart Disease hits home for us. We wear Red Dress Pins to raise awareness.
In addition, look who came to visit ME! It’s Arista, our part-time pet! She at times lives with me and hubby and now for the most part she lives with Joi-Marie in New York… as her guard dog. LOL. 

This little monster peed on me in excitement.. oh what fun?! Why do Daschunds do that?!
And now, a lesson in how my blog post bites me in the butt… another Newlywed Confession
Oftentimes, as aware as I am about what we need to work on – it takes a while for it to become part of our very nature. 
As much as I wish at times, hubby would step up and help me even more then he already does, it doesn’t really fathom me that he may want the same thing out of me. Grant it, I may think that I am doing enough, but I am definitely aware that he may want the same. 
He literally said to me, “Where’s my help help-mate?!” as he was fussing at me about not offering to find him something to eat last night for dinner. Truth be told, I was tired. He felt like since he got up earlier then I did and did the most yesterday that perhaps his “more tired” feeling should trump my basic tired feeling. His point was that if the shoe was on the other foot, he would’ve done the same. I would like to believe that would be the case… but hey, maybe he would’ve or maybe he wouldn’t have. Unfortunately that was not the point. 
This I think is a lesson for newlyweds: at times we have to be what we want. 
When the Bible says, God loves a cheerful giver… it doesn’t always apply to just giving of tithes and offerings. If the things that I do around the house: if I did that cheerfully, perhaps my husband would not feel like I did nothing… 
The struggle is to not assume that because he is asking me to versus my volunteering to, he will not see it as it being my duty. I can want all day for him to cook more often, but it truly is a battle of how we were raised bumping heads. It’s up to us to find the compromise. I have placed all financial responsibility and balancing our bank accounts on him with no looking back. Something I would hate to have to do because going to the bank is such a pain to me.. but he does it without complaint.. 
Not to mention, it is hard to compartmentalize emotions when you are being pulled in different directions. My husband lost his mother in 1999. Mother’s Day is never easy and yet, him choosing not to eat all day was not out of laziness but rather on that particular day, he wanted to be nurtured, like a mother.. basically I failed. 
I was tired, but hubby missed his mom. 
Rest in Peace, Altagracia Saint-Jean

So hubby, Monday morning is hindsight 20/20… 
You are truly a momma’s boy.. you even look just like her.
Let’s go to Bed, Bath and Beyond now.. 
Love ya!

miscellany monday at lowercase letters

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Newlywed Confessions: My Hubby vs. Siri

Marriage, dare I say ANY relationship is about Communication.
One must learn how to speak in a way that the information can be received by the other party. Most disagreements and annoyances come from the fact that we forget sometimes that we are talking to a person who may not think in the same manner that we do… More importantly, someone who may not have the same habits as you.
Anyone who knows me in real life, knows that I am one who REALLY needs a personal assistant. I have no idea how I can freelance as an event planner, be very detail oriented on the job but in my own personal life and attempts to keep up with where I am supposed to be and what time… I am THEE worst!
I promise that you have to remind me of things at least three times so that I am thinking about it, remind me to look at my calendar so that I remember that it’s there and definitely text me the day of because my mind goes blank like adventures with Men In Black on the daily. So, when I wake up until I am reminded, I completely forget what it is that I was supposed to do that day and pray to God that I woke up in time to still be where I am supposed to be…
And as I type this I am thinking about at least four places that I have to remember to be over the next couple of days.. but I digress (and pray to God I don’t forget about).
Usually, when it’s really important, despite all the reminder gadgets that we own, I tell my husband to remind me. At first, when we started dating and even early in marriage, I am pretty sure that he was annoyed with having not only to keep up with his crazy busy schedule, but now he had to constantly remind me of mines. And not only my schedule, but stuff like where I left my car keys, did I put the garage door down, did I lock the front door, etc.
Then Apple came out with Siri — a computerized personal assistant with a sassy attitude available in the iPhone 4S. Seeing as though we own every Apply gadget made, you would think I was in line for such a device that would clearly make my life easier… just as I may or may not have stood in line for hours when the first few iPhones came out..
But nope…
 I don’t have Siri. I don’t have an iPhone 4S… I have an Amos..
What’s an Amos?
A cute, handsome device of sorts that has dimples that drives his wife coo coo for cocoa puffs!
This is an Amos..
I was all too reminded of how he is truly my real life Siri, and honestly just as corny for actually telling him that he is, when I sent hubby a text in the middle of the day to say:
“Can you remind me to purchase that bridesmaids dress for my cousins wedding on Monday. She is going to kill me if I don’t!”
The SAME bridesmaid dress that I mentioned last week and promised I would get… hence, proof that all of what I am saying in this moment is true.
Hubby simply responded “I got you.”
Combine the compromise we learned… with communication.. Or in my case, the NEED for over communication via reminders to function, then
Yes.. Husband … You definitely do get me.. You got me and there’s nothing you can do about it.
Thanks for putting up with someone who is at times the complete opposite of you! and at other times, like two peas in a pod, you can’t act silly and be yourself with…
Countdown to two year wedding anniversary.. T minus 3 months and 3 days.

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Happy Hour Wednesday

It’s humpday fun day!!!
Oftentimes on Wednesday, it feels like the slump of the week. Getting to this day may have been so mentally draining and yet Friday is still not yet close enough.
And so here we are … another Wednesday. There is so much for me to be Happy about this week.
So here’s my midweek Sunshine:
1. My little roadrunner is treating me very nicely! I consider it an early Birthday present from the hubs.
2. Wife Life Sunshine: I think the Spaghetti Argument may have finally come to a compromise. The other day I said that I would be making spaghetti again, but realistically that didn’t happen until last night. We both arrived home from work within about five minutes of each other. The meat had already been thawed out with hopes of being consumed a day prior… so when Hubby asked me to make spaghetti, I must’ve given this look of “now?” … OR he may have read my blog lately.. I don’t know.
But, as I got the pots and pans ready… here he came.. my help-mate, cooked the meat for me while all I did was watch noodles boil. We did it TOGETHER! Major step! Not so much about the fact that we don’t know how to cook spaghetti without having WW3 in our home. It’s just simply the fact that when we both go to work, and we both come home hungry, if one appears to be tired, will the other step in and at least take care of half the load versus sitting on your bum and waiting to be served. It was great!
3. I said I didn’t want a full-time pet in the new home with all the new carpet and the tendency for pets to mark their territory, but this one is SOOOOO cute.. may make me reconsider. Hmm…
4. Lastly, Baby Sunshine!
Jessica Simpson gave birth to her daughter, Maxwell Drew Johnson… Now I know that she has been criticized for how much she has gained during pregnancy and also signed a MAJOR contract with one of those diets Weight Watchers/ Jenny Craig to lose it using them post-baby…but, when I look back to this and count down the months… just to think that she was only two months here when she announced…

all you can say is… WOW (two months really?).. Baby Maxwell weighed in at 9 lbs 13oz. 21 3/4 inches.
Honestly, I can’t talk.. being one who is already thicker then I want to be.. if anything this is motivation for this Run/Walk that I am participating in today because God knows.. if I ever post a pregnancy announcement at two months and you think that I am five months, then we have a serious problem!
What’s your Sunshine for the week? Link up anything that makes you smile!
Have a wonderful Happy Hour Wednesday!

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Newlywed Confessions: The Spaghetti Argument

Photo Credit: C-Thru Lens Edited by: Me
So in 4 months, I guess we would be in that phase of simply “married”.. although we will forever live our lives as newlyweds. It is what I find most important in the marriage in order to remain as happy as you were before you said “I Do!”
In thinking back to this day where this photo was taken… almost two years ago now, before we said our vows and before I gained like 3 sizes (I think clothing manufacturers are starting to cut smaller.. LOL) … here we were, with two ice cream cones: different, yet similar.. one with sprinkles, one without, but yet willing to still share with a smile.
Indulge me if you will for the next few months towards our two year anniversary to share the lessons I learned from being a newlywed in what I call “Newlywed Confessions”.
Newlywed Confessions: There is only ONE argument throughout your relationship that will continue to play out in different ways over and over again.
Don’t believe me? Here is ours…
It is nicknamed, “The Spaghetti Argument
One day before leaving for work, a conversation was had about what we would have for dinner. I suggested Spaghetti. Hubby concurred and off we went. By the time we had both gotten home from work, a serious nap was needed by us both and yet hunger pains were very well present. Earlier in the morning, I had agreed that I would be the one cooking dinner. By the time I got home tired, I needed help to even stay awake and so I asked my “help mate”… “Can you please just boil the noodles and I will make the meat in just a few?”
You would’ve thought that it was the end of the world to break open a noodle box and shove them into a pot of water. And so, hubby so graciously declined. Eventually, it turned into a back and forth session of words as to why it should be me who cooks if we are both tired from work. I felt like the compromise should be that we both get in the kitchen and prepare something for BOTH of us to eat. However, he did not see it my way at all! It turned into what I have referred to before as a “time out” for us both. We ceased to speak to each other and dinner was not started for a good while.
We both sat silent. and hungry.
We have applied our pre-marital counseling to break down each of our points to see why this is our argument that will probably appear over and over and not just about spaghetti…
My Point of View: “I need to know that when I am tired and can’t do for myself, you will go out of your way to take care of me. Even if it is inconvenient for you. I need to see that you will make that sacrifice so that our family is fed.” (In other words, Where is MY help help-mate?) Of course, now I am balling crying thinking this is how its always going to be! He is going to see me as the woman who has to have a meal on the table by a certain hour and run and tend to the children when they cry and place me into all these woman “roles” and I am not having it! We are friends and partners! COOK THE DARN NOODLES, MAN!
His point of View: “I need to know that if I am not there or not available that you will still be able to maintain. That you are still that independent woman that I love and that at the end of the day, you will take care of me… when I am completely worn out, will you be that one to always be my number one fan and restore me versus take from me like everyone else in the world does?” (In other words, Where is MY help help-mate?) Should’ve just cooked dinner myself if I was going to have to help you boil water. Really? How incapable are you of making spaghetti.. Please God, Tell me I didn’t marry a woman who cries over boiling water? FORGET IT I AM NOT HUNGRY SINCE YOU WANT TO LET ME STARVE!
In a way, we both wanted the same thing.
We wanted to know where our help would kick in from the mate’s we said I do to.
So what do we do now?
So as newlyweds, what did we learn? We may say different things and even scream it at the top of our lungs, but at the end of the day we are probably saying the same thing. With the energy it took to argue and fall out crying, dinner could’ve been made by now.
Pick and choose battles, because at the end of the day. It was never about the spaghetti…
Marriage is sacrifice and compromise. And we do so daily…we compromise on how much space, if any, he gets in the closet; as wives we put on the big girl panties and make sure our hubby’s are taken care of because trust me, being married to a musician has its perks but with every man there is always some woman out there who is not complaining about making spaghetti..
So how do we avoid this situation in the future?
When we are both tired these days, we just order out.
Anybody else have the dumbest arguments with your significant other, especially when you are sleepy?
Nap time is not just for children… I am just saying.
Ironically, I agreed to make spaghetti tonight also…Fingers crossed.

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