Roses are Red and Pink: Friday’s Letters

So, as you know by this post, I didn’t know what to expect for Valentine’s Day or if I should even expect to celebrate Valentine’s Day at all.
Later, hubby revealed to me was that his rationale for thinking it was ok not to celebrate was because Valentine’s Day fell on a Thursday.
From the book of wife life, “who cares what day it falls on. You can’t pretend it doesn’t exist”.
Yes, I partly care less about Valentine’s Day because its not a real holiday but I am far from a debbie downer saying that the day is stupid and should be ignored.
It really just means that we can move our date night up a day and go date with the rest of the country.
You truly don’t have to go overboard. I definitely don’t see it as Christmas for lovers.
Either who, I guess hubby said “if you want Valentine’s Day, then I will give you Valentine’s Day!”
Yesterday morning hubby wanted to take me to work and pick me up and from there I knew he would take me to dinner – because going to eat Sushi is all I asked for.
Well, Thursdays is a day that I spend mostly in the field doing home visits. So I told him I would go to work and be home probably sooner then expected.
I noticed he was irritated but he wouldn’t say why.
Well, I took myself to work and was in the field. At the last minute I decided to stop by my office to use the bathroom and then be gone for the day on a Walk/Run for my agency.
Well, luckily I did stop by the office because these flowers were delivered to my office by hubby as a surprise. And boy did he get me! because I kid you not, I thought he didn’t even know the address to my office.
Sneaky Sneaky Mr. Hubster!

They were so beautiful. They have a special place on my desk for the next few days – sadly I won’t be back in the office until Wednesday so hopefully they are still holding on when I return.
So when I got home it was time for his surprise.
He was in the kitchen warming up his food and washing dishes.
I knew he would have to come back to the microwave so I just stood there in silence ready to surprise him.
And surprise him I did! HA! See that look on his face!
He checked out  skimmed the card and then the goods…
I got him Ted on Blu Ray – He was definitely pleased with that. And I owe him a Ravens edition Sports Illustrated!
So then he took me out to eat Sushi! To make it special, instead of going to the regular places we go – he researched a spot we had never been to so that we could try it together. It was an hour away in Dulles, Virginia. And that was fine by me because I hadn’t been out that way in a long time.
Here’s my V-day outfit of the day.
Sweater: NY&Co. Shirt: NY&Co. Pants: Forever21+ Shoes: Bakers Jewelry: Forever21
My shoes are black with metallic specks so I figured why not do the same in the tights under my ripped jeans. Peak-a-Boo!
Food was great! Sushi was amazing! YAY!
Then we went to go see Safe Haven –
I didn’t know what to expect because The Notebook set the standard for emotional romantic stories but this one was far from it. It was definitely more of a mystery, thriller, romantic love story with a twist at the end that made me love it more. In a romantic mood? Go see this.
Hope you had a wonderful Valentine’s Day
and now some brief letters…
Dear Sorors, Brown Bag Lunch today. I’m there.
Dear Hubby, Thanks for everything yesterday and we have a long weekend to hang out so can’t wait!
Dear NBA All-Star Game, I was there last year but this year it was just off my radar.. maybe next year.
Dear New Readers, Thanks for hanging with me.
Dear Ashley, Congrats on your pregnancy!
Dear Crystal and Marquis, So happy that the twins are finally here!
Dear Job, Thanks for the Special Achievement Award – much appreciated!
Dear Parents, miss you much!

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Happy Valentine’s Day

 Dear Valentine, 
It was on this day —
August 5, 2007
that you made me the happiest girl. My best friend asked me to be his girlfriend and we spent the weekend together. It was that year that we spent our official Valentine’s Day as a couple… although we had spent previous ones together. It was special. You took me to eat Sushi in Dupont Circle and I was so happy that you were willing to try it for me. 
Now, 6 years later we are going to have Sushi again (i think? – everything you do is always a surprise).
Either who, Happy Valentine’s Day my forever Valentine. 
I love you!
And now the answers to “The Questions” – 
I was wondering if I would ever get my husband to sit down and even answer these questions, but he actually happily did it… although towards the end he was getting a little restless and was starting to say ANYTHING!
His answers are in Red, and mines are in Pink. 
How long have you been married?
A: 2 and a half years
J: 2 year and a half years
Where was your first date?
A: Bahama Breeze
J: Our first date was at Bahama Breeze, his favorite restaurant

Where was your first kiss?
A: In your house
J: At my house, I think? I remember that was where he first came to hang out with me before our first date later that week.

Who first said, “I love you”?
A: You
J: It was definitely me. We were still friends, not even dating when I said it. 

What were your wedding colors?
A: Silver and umm lavender, purple or something
J: They were silver with shades of purple

What is her most commonly used phrase?
J: Don’t come for me… If I didn’t send for you!. (I feel like someone is always trying to play me). 

Who is her celebrity crush?
A: Oh whats his name? umm – one second… Oh my God… Bradley Cooper
J: Channing Tatum

If she was ordering drinks for both of you what would you each get?
A: Sangria
J: Amaretto and OJ for him, Sangria for me.

What is the best meal she has ever cooked you?
A: Dag. I have to remember (I am thinking at this point has it been that long).. the spicy shrimp rice whatever (Dirty Rice with Shrimp)
J: Hot Wings

What is the worst meal she has ever cooked you?
A: That d**n Chili – that joint was like Porridge, I don’t know how you did that.
J: Uhh… I have had a few misses- most recently when I made Chili in the crockpot .. bad idea. I didn’t even eat it.

What is the most-played song on her iPod?
A: You don’t have an iPod.
J: I don’t even know where my iPod is.

What would you say is her most annoying habit?
A: The way you hum music! It gets under my skin.
J: The fact that I don’t pick up my clothes, I am sure is driving him nuts! I am not that domestic.

What is the last thing she does before she goes to bed?
A: Recently, you curl your hair and fart. [REALLY!?]
J: Kiss him goodnight and say I love you before I close my eyes for good that night.

If you could throw out one item of her clothing what would it be?
A: I don’t know, everything you wear you just throw…  your clothes change every week.
J: He pays zero attention to my clothes – if anything I am sure it would be my Black Toms. I have worn them into the ground.

What would you say is your favorite thing about her?
A: Your Booty! I mean your personality. You’re a beautiful person.
J: He better say something wonderful!

What’s her go-to drink at Starbucks?
A: Soy Vanilla Chai with something.
It changes.
J: It changes each time we go – I drink based on how I feel. 

What’s her blog’s name?!
A: Hello, Good Morning Sunshine
J: He better get this right! He said he just read it. 

You had Questions. I got Answers:

Q: Where are you and your husband at with the fertility situation?
A: Well… let’s see – last I left off I guess it was November – We decided to not so much “try” (read: schedule) anything. We would just see what happens. I still wanted to make sure that we had the best chance possible. I took Clomid 100mgs for November, December and in January I added 150ius of Bravelle (injectable shots that you would take before an IUI) with hopes to by some slim chance still complete my New Years Resolution of conceiving in 2012. Little did I know that it would be so complicated! When it didn’t happen in January, I REALLY tried to suppress my feelings and disappointment about it. It helped that I was super busy in the month of January (read: post-midnight New Years Party, Sorority Centennial, Inauguration, Birthday Parties, Pre-Baby Sunday Dinners) and thankfully, God must know I still need some distractions because my schedule has not slowed down. Once I came out of a fog, I had allowed myself one day to grieve about it. I even started speaking things like, its just not meant to be and its not going to happen. We have two extra bedrooms in our home and one is my office and one is the future nursery. I made plans to fill the future nursery with the biggest furniture so that it could fill the space and I can stop walking past an empty room every day. But thankfully, I prayed and I got my emotions in check. I feel 100% at peace. In short, still not pregnant, but still trying. No immediate plans for going back to the specialist right away but we still speak about children one day being in our home.

Q: What is your short-term goal? What is a long-term goal?
A: My short term goal is to write a book. I want to be finished my first book this year.
A long term goal that I have is to become management in my field.

Q: How are things coming with the house?
A: Well, its funny because I just told my husband that I want to pick a room every 3-6 months so that we don’t get used to just living in the half done mode. We have painted our main living spaces (The Family Room, Kitchen, Hallways, Master Bedroom and Laundry Room) and have tackled a few rooms upstairs. But none are finished completely (Some pictures hung but no room is fully decorated). We also repaint the Master Bathroom again, so that is going to take some time. Other than that no major projects going on right now but hopefully soon.

Still to come:
What are you favorite day to day make up products?
Do you have any tattoos? Does your husband?
Tell us about your first date with your husband.
Can you say how you knew your husband was the one.

Have more questions? Keep them coming.. you can email me or comment if you like.

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Valentine’s Day after Marriage

Oh Valentine’s Day –
I can remember when Valentine’s Day started to matter to me.
I guess it was around 16 or 17 years old.
It was the age I gave myself that I felt like it was finally appropriate to date. I grew up on The Cosby Show and had a real fear of embarassment if I were to ever bring a boy home.
Problem is, by the time I started to care, I was already in college – and at Howard University no less. Which I swear is the the picture perfect classic case of HBCU you can find.
I mean, the things I saw happening on A Different World – happened at Howard, and then some.
Either who, it was at the point that I cared that I wish I didn’t because I was “young” compared to my classmates. I was scared to talk to boys. Basically I had no boyfriend.
I didn’t care though… until…
Every Valentine’s Day some sap of a freshman or sophmore male would be waiting in the lobby for some chick to come and sign them in.
He would be carrying the most obnoxious expressions of Valentine’s Day: horrid white teddy bears and large roses and balloons. Basically whatever they could find. (no offense to anyone who loves this stuff, but its just not for me).
And if you sat in the lobby long enough, the same chick would be there to get stuff from the next dude that came about three hours later.
Either who, it was the days I decided that I would not care – and yet was bitter, because I cared.
When I finally had a boyfriend I would be sent stuff and realized, I really just didn’t like all of that. I felt like it wasn’t for me.
When my husband and I dated, we put such little emphasis on things and made it about just spending quality time together. So much so, I can’t honestly remember what he did on Valentine’s Day last year. And its not because it wasn’t wonderful, but its because he does wonderfully awesome things all year long that I don’t remember what day it falls on.
This year however, I came home after the husbands at my job were asking my opinion as to what they should do for Valentine’s Day – one seriously suggested he get his wife a $25.00 giftcard for McDonald’s. I am praying for him even now, but I told my husband all I wanted to do was to go out to eat sushi and I would be a happy camper.
You see, I LOVE Sushi. I don’t know why but I seriously do.
We eat it pretty regularly but I didn’t want the whole fancy steakhouses that we do for anniversary because in all honesty, who needs Valentine’s day when you do something special any day of the week?
What I was not expecting was my husband to say “Valentine’s Day?! – oh I have rehearsal that day so we won’t be doing anything.”
Umm excuse me?!
and just like that – without realizing it… I felt like I was going to be just like that girl again at Howard, watching and reading on Facebook, Instagram and the Blogs (basically my online campus) of how wonderful Valentine’s Day was and realize I am at home doing NOTHING and was going to be by myself.
I think when he said it I was so taken back that I just stopped speaking. I went into my own little world.
Luckily, my husband knows me well… and yes I acted out. When our friends asked at the Grammy party what we were doing for Valentine’s Day, I yelled back “NOTHING” and stormed out the room. LOL.
But of course, he got the message in my silent protest.
So this week, probably Tuesday, he says “So on Valentine’s Day…”
I said, “Oh What? You want to talk about it now?!” (attitude central)
He says, “Will you hush, I cancelled rehearsal and we have reservations.”
You would think I said Thank You… but nope, hiding my blushing I say “So what?! You blamed it on me?! Gosh, they must think I am demanding!”
He said “nope, I told them, there will be peace in my house so no rehearsal on thursday.”
Instead they are rehearsing tonight and thats fine.
Valentine’s Day after marriage isn’t so much about the things.
Nor is it about spending hard earned money for a holiday that was created to help retail with post holiday sales..
It’s simply about the thought..
I love my hubby for all his randomness and how thoughtful he is.
I would not trade him for the world! because he is simply the most considerate husband I know.
And he works so hard too!
So tommorrow — its really just allowing us another day, outside of regular date night and scheduled work nights to just pause to spend time together.
So hubby this is for you..
And whats an awesome way to kick off the randomness of Valentine’s Day?!
Tickets to Beyonce’s Mrs. Carter Tour!
Yup! We are in there!
Best HUBBY EVER!!!!!!

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The Love Series: Something Sweet for your Sweetie

As you get ready for Valentine’s Day tomorrow, I offer you this quick tutorial on how to make your own Chocolate Garnish… just to add a little something sweet for your sweetie if you plan to make breakfast or a special dessert *wink.

This post is brought to you by Chris Nease at Celebrations at Home

Here are 4 chocolate garnish ideas to get you started, and how to make them:
  • Write the word “love” on the side of your dessert plates.
  • Serve small cupcakes in an egg cup and top with a chocolate heart.
  • Chocolate & champagne are a classic combination. Hang an open ended heart on the side of the champagne flute.
  • Top off a chocolate liqueur cocktail or chocolate milk by floating a chocolate heart on the surface.
How to Make the chocolate garnish:
You will need:
chocolate discs for melting
small squirt bottle from the craft store or baking supply store
  • Begin by lining a baking sheet with wax paper.
  • Melt your chocolate discs according to package directions, either in the microwave or with a double boiler.
  • Pour or scoop melted chocolate into the squirt bottle.
  • “Draw” chocolate shapes onto the wax paper using the squirt bottle, and place in the freezer to set up.
  • When fully set, peel the wax paper away from the chocolate {as opposed to pulling the chocolate up off the wax, to avoid breakage}.
Tip: To write on the side of the plate, I placed the plate in the freezer first to chill it. This helps the chocolate firm up quicker.
Make more than you think you need….just in case ; )
{all photos by Celebrations At Home}
You can use this idea to create any simple shape. The hearts and “love” theme are great for so many occasions. You could also write “happy birthday” or “congratulations” or even write each person’s name on their own dessert plate!


The Love Series: Life’s Love Lessons for Valentine’s Day

I’d love to show you a craft-a-day and show you how to create wonderful vignettes for decorating your house for the Valentine’s Day season, something that my grandmother used to do with us when we were little, however, we are in the process of packing and moving. And so, instead I will be doing a Love Series or in other words a series on love-related-topics-to-make-me-reevaluate-my-relationships-with-people-my-significant-other-and-how-to-love-me-better series.

I get asked the most random questions about love and relationships. As well as, see displays of love every where that I wish everyone could see… it would give hope and hopefully allow people to give Love a chance when the realize its not like how the Disney Movies taught us. It takes work and you have to be intentional about maintaining your happy. And with that comes small sacrifices at times.

I ran across a wonderful post that made me crack up because it just goes to show that every couple has something they argue about. And if you were honest with yourselves, every couple truly has the same argument over and over again just in different forms. For my husband and I, we have named our perpetual argument, “the Spaghetti argument” …

Laura at The Bloggess wrote about this argument she had with her husband: “The Puppies Aren’t My Fault”

“Me calling my friend Laura after I had a fight with Victor about something stupid that was actually probably my fault to begin with.

Laura:  Hello?

me:  So, I’m sitting in the parking lot of the Dollar Store because I just had a big fight with Victor and I told him I needed to get out of the house, but now I feel all bitchy and I don’t want to see a movie or shop or eat and I just realized I don’t have any outside hobbies.  I AM TERRIBLE AT FIGHTING WITH VICTOR.

Laura: Huh.

me:  By the way, this is Jenny.

Laura:  I figured that one out.  You can come to my house and I’ll feed you ice cream.

me: I’m lactose intolerant.

Laura:  Then I will give you a puppy.

me:  That would be nice, actually.  And then when Victor was like “Why do you have a puppy?” I could say “Because you were mean to me.”

Laura:  And every time you have a fight you come home with a new puppy.  It’s like couple’s therapy but with puppies.

me:  OhmyGod, we are going to have SO. MANY. PUPPIES.

Laura:  The puppies are a metaphor, Jenny.  Don’t really buy a bunch of puppies when you’re mad.  Everyone always regrets angry revenge puppies.

me:  Oh, I’m getting puppies.   There’s gonna be puppies everywhere.  And then when Victor is all “WHERE ARE ALL THESE PUPPIES COMING FROM?” I’d just say “These puppies came from you.  You brought these puppies into our house.  With your wrongness.”  And then he’d complain that I was the one that kept sneaking puppies in and I’d have to explain that his actions brought the puppies in.  And then he’d realize just how crazy it is to fight about ridiculous shit for no reason at all.  Also, the puppies get shafted because we aren’t responsible enough to have that many puppies.  I mean, think about the puppies, Victor.

Laura:  So, it’s his fault you have all these puppies.


Laura:  You know what?  I don’t know the details but I can pretty much say without a doubt that you are right and he’s being irrational.  THESE PUPPIES ARE NOT HELPING ANYONE, VICTOR.

me:  *deep breath*  I feel better.

Laura:  Good.  Now stop being crazy, go home to your husband, and tell him to stop it with all the puppies.

And that’s exactly what I did.  And he just sort of looked at me oddly and made us lunch and we watch Pawn Stars together.  And that’s why I love Victor and also why we don’t have a puppy.”

So Lesson #1: Just know that at the end of the day. Remember that just when you think that the other person has wronged you in some way, remember that they have to put up with your crazy rants from time to time as well… and it takes a very special person to deal with that side of you on a consistent basis.
I understand why my mother always congratulates my husband for “dealing” with me.. LOL. Hey we clearly all have our moments.